Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Mean girls

It's been over a week since an incident that jarred my belief in the goodness of people.

Some weekends just don’t work out right. And that was the case 2 weeks ago. It was a weekend that seemed to be filled with an endless supply of drama that lingered beyond Saturday, beyond Sunday, and carried well into last week unfortunately.

That was the weekend when I encountered some "mean girls." You know, the kind who'd rather put you down than build you up; the kind who'd rather smile to your face and sneer behind your back than be sincere.  Yup, those girls.  (sigh)



In my school days, I was neither a bully nor the one who was bullied. But I guess some people never grow up.  

I don't want to get into all the details of what was said because it's only going to degenerate into a she said-she said situation.  So I'll just say that it was not what I would have expected to happen given the scenario and not the type of encounter I expected to have with another adult. The worst part about my encounter with these people is that they chose to personally attack me.  And at least a couple of things that were said were meant as an insult to Islam and Muslims.  (As y'all must be well aware by now, I'm Muslim. I'm certainly not hiding that fact.)
Hate
It has caused a lot of problems in this world,
but it has not solved one yet
~ Maya Angelou
This isn't the first time someone has treated a Muslim unfairly. And I'm pretty sure it won't be the last.

Whatever you want to call them -- religiously intolerant people, bullies, or mean girls -- this isn't even the first time since my conversion to Islam that someone treated me unfairly. Nor is this the first time a good friend has told me that these particular people were backbiting about me. It's funny because I don't particularly care about the opinion of these people, but I also don't particularly enjoy being the subject of ridicule or someone saying Islamophobic things about me.

I've done my best to ignore them each time, but their words still stung this last time. And while I realize that devoting this entire blog post to their drama may only fuel their fire and let them think they "won"...I also don't want to sweep their behavior under the rug. Because making fun of people on the basis of their religion, handicap, race, sexual orientation, etc...is not right.

The other day, I relayed my recent experience to a friend of mine, and she was shocked. And without me even saying the word myself, she jumped to the same conclusion I had: bullies. And then you know what she did? She immediately had a talk with her kids to tell them bullying is wrong. Well done. I hope some of you reading this now have either already done that or will do the same with your kids.

It's been almost 2 weeks. A sufficient amount of time to move on from such a crazy encounter over what was a silly issue to begin with. Still I'm left wondering: what do you do about adults who seem to believe this behavior is acceptable and ok? How do you get them to unlearn this bad behavior?

2 comments:

  1. "It's funny because I don't particularly care about the opinion of these people, but I also don't particularly enjoy being the subject of ridicule or someone saying Islamophobic things about me."

    I know just how you feel though when it happened to me it was not because I am Islamic (I'm not). It does make you wonder how someone who is supposed to be a mature adult can talk like a 15 year old school kid. In my case, it was someone I had actually respected and looked at as a source of wisdom. Oh how wrong I was! Turns out, it wasn't only me she was backbiting but others she didn't even know as well! That says a lot about their character. It's sad isn't it?

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    1. Sorry to hear that happened to you. Mean people suck. And yes, it IS sad. :(

      --Meliha

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